I have seen all the thing that can be done during the holidays, but most people just want to use you for what they can get out of you. some people think if they offer party favors they should have the run of the mill. Some think if they are providing sexual favors that you should be content to bending over backward to put them at the top your priority list.

People will come to your home spill drinks on your carpet and will not even tell you since it isn’t their floor. They feel they are exempt to cleaning it. They will damage your property and have an explanation why it is okay. “You can just buy another one”, this is their response because they believe that since it was an inexpensive item you have money to waste. You took care of for a long time and now they just come mess things up for you to fix it.

These people come in your home boisterous about the delicious cooking and ruins your pots/pans with the saying, “I will buy you another one”. Of course, you never get it. Obviously, if they had a bunch of things of their own and valued other people’s property they would understand why their visits become fewer and fewer.

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Some people think they can fix a problem that their friends caused with deciding what solution would make it okay. For example, let’s say Mary had a Schwinn beach cruiser bike, she lends it to John but Sally his girlfriend broke it. John decides he will give Mary a cheap Walmart Murray  bike and thinks that should solve the issue. John didn’t consult Mary or ask if that was the type of bike she had. John thinks he is doing the right thing because he replaced a bike with another bike. Unfortunately, some things can’t be replaced. I heard of a similar issue, but it was a piece from a collection and the whole collection needed to be replaced.

This 2016 is the year of not being stepped on because you have a kind heart. Time to move up a notch and don’t look back for people that like it down below. Create something in your life that you are proud of and make yourself feel good inside. Give without validation. Don’t always take from others but help others. I want to start helping only those who want my help and will do something about it. If you want to improve your life, I will help you get started but it is up to you to keep it going.

My New Year’s resolution is to work on me. I want to change things about myself that I was afraid to change because of my friends. I now know that they were not friends and don’t really care anyway. I will need to change my lifestyle and my household. My association will  change to like minded individuals. I will loose quite a few connections, but I need to step my life up and if you aren’t moving in my direction and happy where you  are, I will be leaving you behind.